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She was adopted at birth and spent decades not knowing where she was from.

Ariana Quinones was raised in New York, Ohio, and Maryland by a Polish-American mother and a Puerto Rican father. She always knew she was adopted. But she had no country. So she claimed Puerto Rican because it was the closest thing she had.

At 18, she registered with her adoption agency. Three years later, a one-page letter arrived. It said Ecuador. At 21, she finally had a country.

She went to Ecuador and walked into a town called Otavalo, where everyone looked like her. She got a tattoo of a pre-Columbian jaguar symbol before she even fully understood what she was claiming.

And then in 2018 her husband called and said are you sitting down.

His friend Jose, whom he had known for ten years, had just found out he was her nephew. And everything she had been searching for since she was 18 years old suddenly had a face.

In this episode

  • What it felt like to grow up with no country to claim
  • Claiming Puerto Rican and the triple impostor syndrome that came with it
  • The one page letter that changed everything
  • Walking into Otavalo and seeing her own face in the people around her
  • The tattoo she got before she knew what she was reaching for
  • Are you sitting down. The phone call that found her birth family.
  • What she is intentionally preserving for future generations

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Reconnecting, discovering something new, or deciding what to pass on? I’d love to hear it.