They Didn’t Want to Remember. Nobody Asked.

Tamara Buzyna Adams

June 9, 2026 · 30 min

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Tamara Buzyna Adams always knew her grandmother's diaries were there. Five volumes. Over 100 years old. Written in Russian by an 11-year-old girl living on a steamship in the Black Sea during the Russian Civil War. Nobody ever opened them. Nobody asked. Then COVID hit, her mother made a decision, and Tamara spent the next five years finding out what was inside.

What she found changed everything. She learned her grandmother better in those pages than she ever knew her in life. She tracked down descendants of people who were on the same ship, presented them a six-hour seminar about their shared history, and gave strangers the story of their own people. And she sailed through the same bay where her grandmother's ship was anchored, holding up a century-old photo to the mountains, trying to find the exact spot.

In this episode

  • The Diaries: What five composition books written in 1921 actually look like up close
  • Nobody Asked: Why immigrant families went silent about where they came from
  • The Decision: What finally made her mother say once and for all
  • Five Years of Research: What that actually looks like day to day
  • Finding the Families: Tracking down descendants of people on the same ship
  • The Bay of Kotor: Holding a 100-year-old photo up to the mountains
  • The Heritage Fragment: The church and a grandmother she feels every time she walks in
  • One Step: What to do this week if you have something sitting in your family

Have a story about your heritage?

Reconnecting, discovering something new, or deciding what to pass on? I’d love to hear it.